I read something about wedding tradition in Pakistan and I thought I should share this thought with the readers. Wedding traditions haven’t just changed with time, they have become too much!
Almost a century ago, marriage business was much easier than now. However, there were more customs and traditions that were followed. Nowadays, weddings are just a show of money! All the traditions that are seen now were not seen thirty years ago! This means the customs we now call “traditions” are fairly recent. The Saturday evening affair with dinner, dancing, centerpieces, and party favors is not a long-standing tradition. For most modern wedding guests, a “traditional” American wedding would be totally unrecognizable. Here are some traditions that have changed the most over the years.
More than a century ago, there was a rhyme that helped brides pick a date. Mondays were for wealth and Tuesdays for health. “Wednesday the best day of all, Thursdays for crosses, Fridays for losses, and Saturday for no luck at all.” The 1903 White House Etiquette guide reminded young, society women of the rhyme and also noted that in addition to bringing terrible luck, Saturday weddings were terribly unfashionable.
As late as the early 1960s, many couples were forgoing receptions, even if they had a church wedding. The practice was common enough that the popular 1961 guide, Check List for a Perfect Wedding, detailed how the receiving line should be ordered “if there was to be no reception.”
For many couples, the wedding took place at home with only a few family members and witnesses present. The 1879 guide, Wedding Etiquette and Usages of Polite Society, reminded couples marrying at home that no procession was expected. The couple entered the room and faced the wedding official together. Refreshments were typically served afterward, but few families hosted an elaborate meal. Receptions were simple. For couples who did host a post-nuptial celebration, receptions were typically limited to cake and punch. There were no passed hors d’oeuvres, circulating wine stewards, or dessert bars. Society pages in newspapers reported these simple events but treated them as elaborate affairs.
All these traditions are fast dying…now it is all a show of money and a secret competition. People think it will make their daughter settle in better but sadly, it only creates a false face that it often hard to maintain!